What are your must-haves and deal breakers in a relationship? Before getting married, it’s important to know your boundaries and who you are as an individual. After all, you can’t know if someone is good for you if you don’t know what you need.

While it’s true that every relationship could benefit from a little more effort from both partners, you may find your marriage is more awesome than you gave it credit for, which can be just the push you need to keep making positive changes.

Fighting all the time, using hurtful words, and living separate lives are all obvious ways to cause strife in your relationship. But what about the more subtle ways in which you can neglect, sabotage, and ultimately destroy your relationship?

Looking for the secret to the happily ever after with your spouse? There’s no such thing as a “perfect” marriage, but there are things you can do to get pretty close. The following tips can help you achieve a healthy marriage