P’s and Q’s: Raising Kids with Manners in the Modern World

Even though a growing amount of our day to day interactions now happen through a screen, it’s still important to teach your children basic manners from a young age.

You don’t have to enroll your children in charm school of course, but a little etiquette can go a long way. Experts say that manners can teach children how to be more empathetic, which will help them to better form healthy relationships in the future.

What are “good manners”?

Good manners go far beyond the usual lessons of always saying please and thank you, or being polite at the table.

Etiquette expert Emily Post once described manners as “the sensitive awareness of the feelings of others. If you have that awareness, you have good manners, no matter what fork you use.” By teaching children to consider other people’s feelings and the affect that their actions can have on others, you are laying the foundation for politeness and empathy.

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Basic Respect

At the heart of good etiquette lies the concept of respect and sensitivity of others.

As a parent, you expect your child to give you respect, but you should also teach them to give that same respect to others. Be sure to correct your child when they’re not being respectful and considering other people’s feelings or emotions. A sensitive child will be sure to grow into a sensitive adult whose interactions will come from a genuine place of respect and not just from traditional etiquette rules they think they have to follow.

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