You Could Be a Negligent Parent and Not Know It
Welcome to 1000+ words detailing the terrible job you’re doing raising that little, soon to be deviant. I kid. I’m sure you’re a great parent. Case in point, you’re actively looking for alternative viewpoints, searching for ways to improve and reading articles with incendiary headlines.
Relax. I’m not here to berate you about child locks or kid’s access to explicit internet content. That’s not what this is about. Today, we’re going to break down a few common missteps that most parents don’t even notice. Things like negative speech patterns, off the cuff criticism, or being flippant with your child’s emotions can lead to problems down the line. Here on Healthversed, we’re going to poke, prod, and highlight a few unintentional parenting faux pas in an effort to improve our child’s life. Ready? Let’s go!
Building a World Without Negativity
As a parent, your natural instinct is to keep your child safe from harm. You lock the front door so that they can’t run out in to the street. You purchase healthy fruits and vegetables so that they can develop a healthy relationship with food. Your instinct to protect your child comes from a good place, but there is a line that you might not want to cross.
For instance, your child might hate the sound of the doorbell. Instinctively, you might buy a new one. One with a sound that your child approves of. Problem solved, right? Not so much. You see, by catering to your child’s every whim, and by earnestly eliminating everything that elicits a negative reaction from your child, your building a false sense of reality. Childhood is about fostering resilience through exploration. And, sometimes your kid might not like what she finds. Just roll with it.
Telling Them to Just Get Over It
Remember that time when you got dumped and everyone you knew told you to “just get over it”? How did that make you feel? Now, imagine how your child feels.
Telling your little boy or girl to “just get over it” can be very harmful. For one, it doesn’t make them feel better or actually get over it. If anything, it makes them feel worthless. It makes them feel like you don’t value their emotional state. And, it might prevent them from ever being open again. Just listen thoughtfully and maybe even give them a hug. Then, they may actually get over it.