How to Survive a Breakup
There are plenty of ways to handle a breakup. If you’ve done it already before, you may think that you’ve found the best possible method, but what you may not realize is that every breakup is different.
Luckily, we’re here today to bring you a few tips on how to get through your newest breakup. It isn’t easy. Making big changes in life never is. However, with a few helpful tips, it won’t be long before you’re feeling like you’re back on top of the world again.
Read on below for tips on how to get over your ex quickly so you can move on to your new single life.
Process why you broke up in the first place
One of the most important things to do when you first break up with a partner is to determine why you broke up in the first place. If you were the person who initiated the split, chances are that you’ve already done a lot of processing in your decision to end the relationship.
If you were the person who didn’t initiate the decision, chances are there are a lot of unanswered questions in your mind. Do your best to listen to your partner’s reasons in the moment, and understand why they are seeking to leave the relationship.
Some of the reasons they give may be things you’ve been thinking of as well. Really seek to understand the reason behind the split, and it may give you some clarity on how to move forward.
Mourn the relationship
One thing that people sometimes forget when a relationship ends is to mourn. It doesn’t mean that you have to be unhappy for the rest of your life, but it is important to give the relationship its due. Acknowledging that things are over can be painful sometimes, but admitting to yourself that things are truly over between you and your partner is a necessary step.
Make sure to give yourself plenty of time to feel and express your sadness. It’s ok if you don’t feel sad at first – you might feel elated that you’ve left the relationship, but it’s still important to give yourself time to heal.
Be kind to yourself
This goes along with mourning the relationship. Many people force themselves to get out there and start meeting new people as soon as they leave a relationship. While this might help soothe your hurt feelings for a while, a much better solution is to be kind to yourself, and this means giving yourself as much time as you need to heal.
Don’t feel bad if there are days when you don’t leave the house, or if all you accomplished in a day was getting off the couch and making yourself a box of macaroni and cheese.