Tips for Becoming a Better Listener

One of the best things you can do for your partner, friends, and family is to truly listen to them. It’s a very special gift to give. To make someone feel that they have truly been heard and understood.

We’ve compiled a few tips to help improve your listening skills. Even if you think you’re a pretty good listener already, it never hurts to re-examine your skills to see if there are any areas that need improvement.

Don’t just wait for your turn to talk

Many people fall into the trap of spending every conversation waiting to make their point. Even if you have a good comeback or pressing point you want to make, you need to be listening to whoever you’re talking to in order to remain a part of the conversation.

If you don’t listen to them, and spend the whole time simply preparing your next point, you’ll quickly come across as someone completely self-absorbed. Next time, really hear their opinion before offering your own in response.

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Don’t relate every point back to yourself 

Not every conversation has to be about you! Many people who do this truly do mean well. They think that their experience can help other people, so they’re eager to relate it. However, it’s important to listen to the other person before you jump in with how the situation relates to you.

Even if your situation does relate to them, your conversation partner will probably gain more from being able to express themselves to someone who is truly listening than they will if you just talk about your experience the whole time.

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