How to Be More Persuasive

Everyone has that friend that seems to always know what to say to convince you that their idea is the best option. They don’t have to necessarily be mean or manipulative to get what they want. Being persuasive means listening to those around you and figuring out how to ensure that everyone gets what they want, while also making sure that you get what you want. You will never succeed in any aspect of your life if you continually seek to undermine others in order to get what you want. It’s important to listen and seek a solution that appeases everyone.

There are a few strategies that will improve your skills of persuasion. Check them out on the list below and see what tips you can utilize in your everyday life.

Cultivate your active listening skills

It’s impossible to be persuasive if you have no idea what or who you want to convince. You need to listen to others not only so that you know how to approach them, but so that you can understand their perspective. Persuasion is truly about finding a middle ground, which is impossible when you’re not really listening to what the other person is saying. Active listening isn’t hard, but it does take more effort than we may be used to.

First, put away any distractions. Then give the other person your full attention, while watching for subtle body language cues to figure out the underlying meaning of their words. It takes some work, but it’s worth it.

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