20 Things Women Who Took Their Husband’s Name Want You to Know

People tend to have strong opinions one way or the other about women who change their name when they get married. Some (particularly the older generations) feel it’s a tradition that should always be upheld, and get very offended when a woman chooses to keep her maiden name. Other people believe that women should not change their name, perhaps for feminist or heritage reasons.

Regardless of where you fall on the spectrum of opinions, we women who did take our husband’s names have a few things we want you to know. Here they are:

It doesn’t mean we’re not into women’s rights

Just because we took our husband’s name doesn’t mean we’re anti-feminist.

We still totally campaign for equal rights and fair treatment. We just decided – for our own, personal reasons — to conform to one of the conventional aspects of marriage.

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We’re still traditional at heart

On some level, there’s just a part of us that felt like it was really important and special to take our husband’s name. That doesn’t make us weak or feeble, it makes us proud and excited!

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But we respect anyone who chooses to keep their maiden name

If you don’t want to change your name when you get married, good for you! We’re not about to lecture you on why you should take your husband’s name. The world is made up of different people, with differing views and ideas and that’s what makes it an interesting place.

So now that you know we’re not passing judgement on you, please don’t disrespect our decision to change our name.

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