20 Marriage Mistakes Men Make
Sometimes clichés are valid and do make a bit of sense – for example, hindsight being 20/20 and “marriages being made in heaven, while maintenance is here on earth.” Very nice!
The facts of married life do include speedbumps. Most speedbumps are cautions that, if handled properly, can keep marriages interesting. Some are jarring. And some are outright serious jolts and risks.
It’s kind of scary, but North American stats are unanimous and warn that the speedbumps of maneuvering marriage are so serious that, sadly, some people just can’t manage. More than fifty percent end in divorce. Some ‘experts’ suggest that the common relationship and marriage speedbumps are actually learning opportunities.
While there are many, many clichés, cheap-shot gender stereotypes — and being stubborn is a gender-neutral fact of life — stats do indicate that men tend to think about marriage speedbumps less than women. Here are 20 marriage mistakes men most commonly make:
1. Ignoring the Top 10 List for partnership
The list is as follows. Memorize it, fellas.
- Financial and physical security
- Demonstrations of affection
- Non-sexual touch
- Need of praise for effort
- Spiritual growth
- Emotional release
- Family togetherness
- Reaffirmation of looking good
- Time alone
2. Me-me-me self-absorption
One of the biggest red flags of a relationship in trouble is a man who spends a lot of time at work — not because he may be having an affair, but simply because his needs are being met primarily in the sphere of work and not in his relationship.
Any time men put work or anything else ahead of their relationship, trouble happens. Properly managing work/life balance is vital.
3. Not listening
A common mistake that married men (and couples) make is not listening to one another.
Perhaps there really is something more interesting on TV, but that can’t possibly be more important than your marriage.