15 Signs You’re Being Used

No one wants to be that person — the one that everyone else knows is being used, but is too blind or unwilling to see it for themselves.

There are plenty of ways to spot a manipulator and stop them in their tracks. Sometimes it takes completely pulling yourself out of the situation to see it clearly, but other times, they leave insidious little clues that you can spot with just a little sleuthing.

Check out the list below if you’re concerned that your latest relationship has turned lopsided, and find out how to stop it before someone gets hurts:

You never pick the activity or outing

Do you always find yourself doing activities that the other person picks out? If so, good for you for being flexible, but make sure you’re not simply giving in to the whims of a pushy partner. It’s possible you might be being used instead of valued as an equal partner in the relationship.

Next time your date (or even your friend) suggests an expensive restaurant that really isn’t your taste, or an activity that you just can’t get behind, gently insist on doing something that you can both agree on. Take note of their response.

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Kar Tr / Shutterstock.com

They only want to hang out with you in times that fit their schedule

Everyone these days has a side hustle, or a part time job that keeps them busy at all hours. If this is the case, it’s completely normal to only be able to see someone at odd hours, like midafternoon, or super late at night.

However, that’s not always the case. Start being wary if you know that your new squeeze works 9 to 5, but can only find time to see you after all the clubs have closed.

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Olena Yakobchuk / Shutterstock.com

You can never get a hold of them when you need them

In our modern world, getting a hold of someone really isn’t that hard. Most people are glued to their phones, and excuses of “I had my phone on silent” just don’t hold water any more, especially if it’s a chronic excuse with no good explanation.

Be wary if your new friend gushes about how much they like spending time with you, but are continually unable to pick up the phone when you call.

This usually means that they want to see you on their schedule, not yours.

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