20 Things Never to Say to a Person With Depression
Depression is a very common illness that affects people across all age groups, genders and racial groups. Chances are high that someone you know will experience depression.
It’s easy for someone who has never experienced depression to think that it’s a mild, trifling illness that can be easily overcome. Those who have experienced depression know that it takes time, self-care, medication, and therapy to get back on the right track.
People with depression only feel worse when friends and family offer unhelpful words of advice. Here are some things you should avoid saying to a person with depression:
1. Suck it up!
Some people who are having a bad day can successfully pull themselves up by their bootstraps. Not so for a person with depression. To get over depression, a person will ultimately need help from others, most likely professionals. Telling someone to be stronger when they have no recourse to improve themselves is insensitive and even cruel.
2. Try, try, try again.
Neville Chamberlain failed in his attempt to appease the Nazis. Having depression is like having Nazis in your head. Doing the same things over and over in an attempt to get rid of depression is like trying to appease Nazis. Only through developing new thought patterns through medication and therapy will a person overcome this illness.
3. It’s all in your head.
Yes, depression is in the head, but in a head that cannot cure itself. A person who is depressed will most likely need medication that has an altering biochemical effect on the brain. Of course, exercise and other activities that help a person activate his body can play a positive role, but a person who is depressed can’t rely upon these alone.