7 Simple Reasons to Stop Worrying and Embrace Rejection

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Let’s face it. We’ve all dealt with rejection, and you know what? It sucks. Big time. Nobody likes getting their heart ripped out, or hearing their kids say, “I hate you,” or not getting that promotion because you “aren’t the right fit.” Fortunately, the hurting part is manageable. The part that isn’t manageable is when rejection causes a fear to move on and try new things.

No more dating, because you got a divorce.

No more pursuing your novel, because a publisher turned you down.

No more softball, because you were benched at the last five games.

Does that sound like a fun and fulfilling life to you? I’ve dealt with a ton of rejection, from college crushes to turned down jobs. Through all this heart stomping, I’ve learned that it’s actually OK to be rejected.

Here’s why:

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1. You Will Definitely Remember It, and That’s Good

Okay, so we’ve determined it sucks to be rejected, but your memory of it is actually a good thing. As much as we hate to admit it, sometimes it is our fault. No matter how small or big the event is, you will remember it! This will help you avoid making the same mistakes again.

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2. It Will Make You Tougher

By getting rejected and coping with it in a healthy manner, you are making yourself tougher. This will make you more professional and it will allow you to look at experiences more objectively. Nobody looks good if they’re crying when they get fired. (And it’s pretty embarrassing too!) It can be hard to see that clearly when you’re an emotional wreck. Take out your frustration on a punching bag or your pillow instead!

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3. There Is Always a Silver Lining

Did you know that forcing yourself to smile actually reduces your stress level? Find the positive side of your situation. Don’t let what’s happened take a toll on your life, because, you know what? It’s not worth it. For example, you got fired because you don’t work fast enough. Ask yourself this: do you really want to work somewhere where quantity is more important than quality? I wouldn’t.

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