How to Sabotage Your Relationship in 7 Easy Steps
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Fighting all the time, using hurtful words, and living separate lives are all obvious ways to cause strife in your relationship. But what about the more subtle ways in which you can neglect, sabotage, and ultimately destroy your relationship? Read on to learn about 7 ways you could be sabotaging your relationship without even knowing it:
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7. You’ve Let Intimacy Fall by the Wayside
Intimacy is integral to a strong relationship, and it doesn’t just take the form of sex. Intimacy can be created by the acts of touching and cuddling, talking and really listening to one another, and sharing your deepest thoughts and dreams.
It’s worth making time for intimacy in your relationship, whatever form it takes. It’ll help you bond as a couple and feel deeply connected.
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6. You Look to Your Partner for All Your Happiness
There’s only one person responsible for your happiness: you. Even in the best of partnerships, one person can’t be expected to satisfy all of the emotional needs of their partner. Everyone needs other people and interests in order to make their lives fulfilling and meaningful.
By looking only to your partner for happiness, you put undue pressure on them as well as on the relationship. And if you allow differences of opinion to stop you from doing what you need to make yourself happy, you sabotage your relationship further: it can lead to resentment, and the feeling that you’re missing out on life.
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5. You Aren’t Communicating Well
We’ve all heard the theory that men and women are from different planets. But in the case of communication, it is true that the genders can differ a great deal. Studies have shown that women use communication through conversation as a means of getting close to their partner — to create intimacy and connection. Men, on the other hand, tend to prefer doing things together as a means of creating closeness.
It’s important to recognize this difference, since poor communication can feel like a lack of attention from your partner, causing hurt feelings and emotional distance. Bridging the gap between your communication styles will help to better understand one another.